How long to wait before asking if she wants to get back together?
January 21, 2009 by howtowinexback
Filed under Break Up Help, Get Back Together, How to Win Back Ex
Q: “Well my girlfriend recently told me she wants us just to be friends.
I still have feelings for her, No idea if she still likes me, how long should I wait before asking my ex girlfriend wants to get back together?”
A: It depends… every couple, every relationship, and every breakup is different. How long to wait before contacting your ex again can depend on certain factors, such as: whether you did the dumping or you were dumped, why you broke up, and how much emotional control you have.
In your situation, because your girlfriend broke up with you, it’s important not to contact your ex too early or too often. For example, here are signs that indicate that it is NOT the right time to contact your ex again:
- You experience daily (or hourly) crying fits and/or emotional outbursts.
- You haven’t been out of bed for 3 days or more.
- You call and/or instant message your ex several times a day.
- Your “ex back” plan is to beg for your ex to take you back and not give up till they say yes (or until they RUN away!).
OK, in all seriousness… This is a time to be very honest with yourself. Contacting you ex immediately is probably OK if you did the breaking up. However, if your ex broke up with you, it goes without saying that you need to back off for awhile and give your ex some time.
When you determine that it is the right time to contact your ex again, keep these tips in mind:
- Keep your initial contact upbeat and simple
- Listen, really listen, to your partner’s concerns
- Patience and understanding must be employed
- Take things slow and keep the conversation light
Before contacting your ex again, you must find out how to act and what to say to win back your ex. But wait! This is a very important time and you can’t afford to make mistakes! With that being said, here’s what i want you to do…
Click Here to watch a video that explains what to do after a breakup has happened. Go watch it now… You’ll be amazed with what you learn!



