How To Get Him Back Even If He Left You
January 9, 2010 by howtowinexback
Filed under get him back
Are you feeling crushed because he left you and now you’d do just about anything to
learn how to get him back again? If so, listen up. You’re going to have to use a proven ex back strategy that will help you win him back and not cause him to head for the hills!
Firstly, remember that just because you want him back it doesn’t mean that he wants to come back. If you’ve broken up before and your relationship has become a breakup & makeup merry go round, pretty soon one or both of you will want to get off that particular ride for good. There is a chance that he might have reached this point, no matter what you now feel and want.
Secondly, to get guy back you’re really going to have to look at the relationship as a whole, not just the parts you’re comfortable looking at, because only then can you begin to find out what caused him to leave in the first place.
If you need outside third party help to scrutinize your relationship, then it’s always worthwhile getting that help. If you have good and honest friends who will tell you what you need to hear, as opposed to what you want to hear, then talk to them.
You should also understand that to pull this off you’re going to have to stop acting on whim and emotion and start working a well thought out proven plan. This is probably the most crucial step you will need to take, so get yourself under control.
Sit down and plan to do whatever it takes to stop yourself running around making things worse – stop calling him, texting him and trying to force him to see you because begging and pleading won’t work.
Instead, occupy yourself by getting out and meeting new people, take a class, get fit, whatever it takes to help you re-focus and approach the whole situation from a point of clarity and calmness, is what you need to do.
Especially take the time to look at why you want to get guy back, because to be honest, too many people find themselves back with their exs only to discover a few weeks down the line that they have made a huge mistake. So just because you want to get guy back right now, ask yourself if you really should?
If you’ve come to the conclusion that getting this guy back is the right move for you, then once you have yourself under control and you’ve thought things through, then your next move is to call and talk to him.
Understand that he may very well need more time before he is ready to speak to you never mind, entertain the idea of rekindling your relationship. Your goal, if this happens, is not to force the situation. Instead, tell him that you understand completely and then tell him you will give him more time to think things through. Leave it at that and continue living your life and keeping yourself busy.
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I am so confused…I moved in with my 2 lil girls into my fiance’s home…it started with him saying he had to work alot and neded space…now my begging and pleading has pushed him even further away…we are still living together, which gives me hope…like I have a chance as long as I am still here…I just don’t know how to act to get the positive results I am looking for…we were so happy together until this work thing happened…my past which left me alot of scarring caused my insecurities to pop up when this happened and I questioned if he was truly working…I am afraid I have definitely completely destroyed the best thing that has ever happened to me…I dont have the money right now for the book because I was a stay at home mom and would appreciate any advice anyone can give me if they have been in this situation before…I love him so much and wish I could make this work…right now he says he is not sure what he wants because he said he cannot be with someone who does not trust him…I am on a roller coaster of emotions right now…one day I am fine and give him his space…obviously he appreciates that and will show it by coming home earlier or something and then I mess it all up by breaking down and crying and begging him to work things out…how do I stop this cycle??? for every 2 steps forward I take 10 back…I have read many articles telling me about NO CONTACT but that is entirely too hard when you are still somewhat living together as a family…I just miss the holding, touching, cuddling, loving soooo much….please help me fix this!!!! thank you so much for your time…
and prior to the needing space thing, we were great, or so I thought…but I did question him alot as to who people were, especially females….but how else was I supposed to know if I didnt ask right???
“I just don’t know how to act to get the positive results I am looking for…”
Michelle, I highly recommend that you sign-up for the Ex Back Secrets Course ASAP!
It’s FREE and it covers EXACTLY how to act (and how NOT to act) when trying to win back your man!